September 27, 2022
27 Tips for Dealing With Grief at Christmas

27 Tips for Dealing With Grief at Christmas

There are many ways to cope with grief at Christmas. When dealing with the loss of a loved one at Christmas, one thing to keep in mind is there is actually no right or wrong way to celebrate the holidays.

Tips for Dealing With Grief at Christmas

Coping With Grief at Christmas

Holidays are a time for fellowship and friendship with those you love. However, for many bereaved families, it is also the time of year when they remember the ones in their lives who have died. How one handles this grief depends on many factors:

  • Relationship to the person who died.
  • Time since loved one’s passing.
  • How many living family members and friends will join in holiday festivities.
  • What stage of grief the bereaved person is in.

Once these factors are identified, the bereaved can decide what would be best in dealing with grief at Christmas. There are many ways this can be done including honoring the loved one lost or creating new family traditions.

It Is Normal to Grieve?

It’s okay to be sad when you miss someone you love. It’s only natural to feel the grief and heartache associated with being alone. When you start feeling overwhelmed by the holidays:

  • Spend some time alone, reading your bereavement cards or letters from others about the person who died.
  • Go to the cemetery or resting place.
  • Write a letter to the person who died.
  • Seek counseling if the grief is too overwhelming to handle alone.
  • Share memories of the person with whoever will listen.

Hold a Memorial Service

On Christmas Eve or Christmas Day, hold a special graveside memorial service honoring the person who died. This will give everyone a chance to connect with their feelings about the deceased person. Activities to include in the memorial service are:

  • Singing a few special holiday songs.
  • Reading a few favorite Bible passages or poems.
  • A photographic slideshow at the Christmas celebration.
  • Placing favorite flowers or grave blankets on the headstone.
  • Lighting a candle in your loved one’s memory.
  • Have a moment of silence to honor your loved one.
  • Have a special Mass or religious service held in the deceased person’s memory.

Christmas Grief Quotes

The following sentimental and poignant Christmas grief quotes about the loss of a loved one could be included at the memorial service:

“Every day without you since you had to go, is like a summer without sunshine and Christmas without snow.”

“I’ll always feel you close to me and though you’re far from sight, I’ll search for you among the stars that shine on Christmas night.”

“Although it’s sad to reminisce on Christmases we knew, this year I shall celebrate in memory of you.”

“Our time together taught me what Christmas time is for, and that’s what I’ll remember until we meet once more.”

Read more: Beautiful Poems to honor your Loved One at Christmas time.

Create New Family Traditions

Grief at Christmas can be eased by changing family traditions that normally would make you sad. If it is a parent you grieve, then make your holiday festivities different than what they were when he or she was alive. Change the location of the celebration or just do things differently if that is what you prefer. If it was a child who passed away, consider including him or her in your celebration:

  • Put up a stocking with the child’s name on it
  • Add the child’s name to Christmas cards in a way that makes you and your family feel comfortable
  • Place flowers or toys at the child’s resting place
  • Make a toy donation in his or her name
  • Buy a special angel ornament to add to your tree

Take a Year Off

There is no rule that says you have to celebrate Christmas with your family and friends. If your grief is so fresh or overwhelming, take a year off. Spend the day watching your favorite movies alone if that is what you want to do. You don’t have to put up a Christmas tree or send out holiday cards. If anyone asks, tell them you needed some time for yourself this year and hope to be back into the festivities next year. Instead of celebrating, you can:

  • Volunteer at a food kitchen
  • Spend time at your favorite spot meditating or reflecting
  • Take a long walk
  • Spend time with an elderly neighbor or one who is alone on Christmas
  • Create your own support group and invite others over who are suffering through the same kind of loss.
  • Give to causes your loved one cherished with a monetary donation or your time.

Celebrate the Holidays When You’re Ready

Christmas is exactly what you make of it. It can be a joyous time of year or it can leave you feeling sad and lonely. Remember, don’t do anything that makes you uncomfortable. You are the one grieving and need time to do that.

By Mary Beth Adomaitis ( lovetoknow )

9 thoughts on “27 Tips for Dealing With Grief at Christmas

  1. Thanks for this post. I lost my husband in September and can relate to this. I am trying to celebrate by baking for my neighbors and making phone calls to some shut-ins. That does not take away the grief but the smile when I take someone a warm cake or cheese ball makes the season a little brighter.

  2. I lost my husband Christmas Eve, it will be 2 years this year. It was his favorite time of the year. He had decorated and I had to take it all down without him.
    The pain seems to be never ending.

  3. Thank you for your support I lost my husband you 52 hrs he always made a big deal decorating our home and wrapping presents he also loved to be in church for our Christmas programs and love to sing Christmas hymns
    So you see it’s hard at anytime but Christmas is the worst he has been gone two years nowπŸ’”πŸ’”

  4. I lost my Daughter to Covid 19 in April this year, nothing can prepare you for the loss of a child at any age. We love and miss her so much. How do we go on it is so hard, the pain is unbearable. The tears keep coming. She was my world my life my everything, and now she as gone. We will never forget you till we meet again love you forever. Mumand Pops.πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”πŸ’”

  5. this message help me in a way how to cope with the lost of our father last September 2020.😍 sending virtual hugs to everyone πŸ€—πŸ€—πŸ€—

  6. I lost my husband of 56 years in February 2020
    It has been so hard to get over. I have wonderful children, grandchildren snd great grands. They are all so good and kind to me. I know he was a child oh God and is in Heaven. That makes it so much easier. I know where he is. He is with his loved ones. I am truly blessed in that department.
    The worst part is my loneliness. I try to go and do things that I think will help people. The answer is to keep busy. Find others that need your help. That helps you and themπŸ˜‡

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